5 Breakup Busting Tips - Feel Better Instantly!

You’re most likely going through a breakup which is why you’ve found yourself here, right? I’m also going to guess this breakup is consuming every part of you and your seemingly partial existence, leaving you to feel soul crushingly miserable. As a result you're desperately googling how to feel better. As crazy as it seems, now hear me out, there are an abundance of things you can do to pull yourself out of your homemade pit of despair and start feeling great in no time.

I understand how shattered and emotionally battered you are to think for yourself right now but that’s ok, I’ve got your back! So, here are 5 things you can do immediately to help you feel more in control while you are navigating the early stages of your breakup. I must warn you though, this stuff is breathtakingly powerful so make sure you’re ready to feel better...I wouldn’t want to cut short any of your suffering!

CRY - Allow yourself to cry as much as you want, as hard as you want and as often as you need during the initial stage of your breakup. Do it ugly, do it blotchy and to the point you can barely breathe! I mean, if you’re going to do it, you might as well do it properly hey? Understand that by doing this you are actually helping yourself move away from being trapped in the black hole of your breakup. Crying is a completely natural response to how you feel and it has some amazing long term health benefits too. Now, I’m certainly not suggesting you cry all the time...nobody has time for that when there is an incredible new life to design. Do not fight the process unless you want prolonged, unnecessary agony. Instead, use crying to your benefit and start creating your new unstoppable, SuperHuman mindset. Go ahead, give yourself permission to really go for it on the ugly crying and feel good while doing it!

Practical tip: Make sure you have Paracetamol available for the post cry crushing headache.

BADASS BREAKUP PLAYLIST - Create and Download a BadAss Breakup Playlist and make sure you always have access to it. Please remember though, you are going to be an almighty force in this breakup so that means no slow, soppy stuff. Nothing you used to listen to as a couple, nothing that sends you in to love fantasy land. You need to create a playlist that screams strength, independence, empowerment, inspiration and confidence. Include your favourite songs of all time, the songs you loved growing up and songs that remind you of amazing times in your life. I am being completely straight with you when I say that music has magical powers. Music is something you can feel but can’t touch. The right kind of music will release those feel good chemicals you totally need and deserve right now. You are the boss of your breakup, so start believing it!

Practical tip: Driving along with your playlist loud, seat dancing and singing your heart out is really effective therapy when you are stuck in your own head.

GET MOVING - Yes, you heard me, get moving! The best time to get active is when you really don’t feel like it, that way it always gets easier. I know this one is challenging, especially as you’re feeling like the world has just ended. You’ve forgotten what sleep even is and quite frankly a house fire or atomic bomb would not motivate you to crawl out of your pit. Well I’m telling you now, I know first hand the impact getting active has on both physical and emotional wellbeing making this an absolute no brainer. The sooner you make this part of your routine and your go to ‘pick me up’ the sooner you will feel unstoppable. Plus, your body will be looking seriously tight! This is not negotiable so get up, get out, get moving, run, walk, go to the gym, dance like you’ve never danced before, start a YouTube fitness challenge or teach yourself Yoga. It doesn't matter how you go about it, just get out there and start doing it! You know it makes sense so enjoy looking good while you feel good!

Practical tip: Try something you’ve never done before or set yourself a fitness goal. Find a fitness buddy as it’s such an effective motivator and most importantly, laugh and have fun while doing it. If it’s not fun, try something else.

GRATITUDE - And yes I did just hear you roll your eyes! Right now you're thinking there is nothing left to be grateful for, right? If you feel this way then I am so excited to tell you that it feels amazing when you have innumerable things to be grateful for! I also know that if you poked your head out of the darkness for a second, you would be able to recognise and appreciate all those incredible things. When you practice gratitude everyday it changes your perceptions, your mindset, your reality and let's be honest, your whole life! Especially in times when life feels really challenging or just down right sucky, be grateful...the challenges you’re going through are trying to teach you something. There are a million reasons for you to keep going and the added bonus is that you get to have all the fun finding out what those lessons are.

Practical tip: Practice gratitude daily and keep a list of all the things you are grateful for. Every time you start wallowing in your own misery shift your focus, add to the list and remind yourself how amazing life really is.

SELF CARE - This is hugely important and yet it is almost always the last thing we think about when we’re busy being miserable. During this exhausting period of your life, you absolutely need to take time out just for you. Actually schedule in time to spend with yourself so you can just do the things you want. Start a new hobby, learn something new or do nothing at all (except listen to your BadAss Playlist). It is not, I repeat, not selfish to focus on your own needs and put yourself first while you start planning your new and exciting journey. I don’t want to tell you what to do, but I will and this is compulsory! Start creating your SuperHuman self today by becoming a priority in your own life. I already know you care about yourself because you’re reading this, so start treating yourself like the most important person in the whole world!

Practical tip: Remind yourself that you come first. Use this opportunity to start your Breakover, get to know yourself better and love who you are.

We all expect breakups to be undoubtedly hideous and most of the time, to be fair, they are. Some of the worst pain I have ever experienced has come from the ending of relationships, betrayal and believing in a fantasy that never was. The amazing news is that your breakup doesn’t have to break you. You already have the power to choose your plan of attack over this situation. You can be broken or you can Breakover...the decision is entirely yours so choose wisely!

Follow these steps, build them in to your new life and feel better instantly. I guarantee you will discover your own unique ways of bossing this breakup as you go, just make sure you’re having fun. You never know, this could be your best breakup yet!

Let me know in the comments what helped you boss your breakup.

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