Amazing Things Happen When You Stop Blaming Others

Are you aware that the quality of your thoughts directly impact your quality of life? I didn't know that either! When this concept was first introduced to me, I had quite a hard time understanding and accepting how I was responsible for bringing all the crap I had going on in my life on myself! Why on earth would I do that? Surely everyone and everything is responsible for the rubbish I think I feel, right? Absolutely not! By the time I learnt to take responsibility for my thoughts, feelings and behaviours I was maturing in my years and quite frankly, it changed my life! I was so busy blaming external sources that I hadn't considered there was another way to be. It was empowering, liberating and face palm inducing that I hadn't figured this out sooner.

When you live in your own head, focusing on all the things that have gone wrong, are going wrong or could go wrong, you miss out on living. You can feel stuck and miserable in the process. Isolated and alone believing nobody understands you, that they don't care how you feel and then basically…you die 🤷🏻‍♀️. Doesn't sound like too much fun, does it?

Maybe you haven't realised that you are actually 100% responsible for your thoughts. Maybe you haven't considered that you actually choose your response to these thoughts and how they make you feel. Now, I get that you may be mumbling to yourself about how I'm talking absolute nonsense however, let me put it to you this way...

Have you ever said or had internal dialogue that goes something like, ugh, he/she/that makes me soooo angry! or whenever he/she does that it makes me feel sad, hurt, depressed, anxious etc? If you answered 'no' to that, I don't believe you! Honesty is a good place to start you know.

I used to say those things all the time! By thinking in this way, I was giving 100% control of my feelings to someone or something else. I hadn't realised I was choosing to feel the way I did and therefore, could choose to feel differently. Through taking responsibility for my emotional reactions I learnt how to effectively manage my emotions, build emotional resilience and reduce the negative feelings I was consistently carrying around with me. I was the one with the problem and I was also the one with the superpower. When I stopped blaming others my life became more simple. I cared less about what other people thought and I got to know myself better. It also enabled me to rapidly let go of negativity which had huge benefits to my energy levels! I changed the way I communicated my feelings which had a positive impact on my relationships and reduced unnecessary drama, especially around the times of PMT!

Next time you experience the 'red mist' or want to have a massive meltdown, stop and think about how the situation is causing you to choose to feel that way. Think about how you can choose a different, more positive emotion instead. You will become instantly aware of how much better you feel, moving yourself from a position of pain to a position of power.

Notice the difference when you take FULL responsibility for what you are choosing to focus on and the emotions you experience in certain situations or around certain people. Thoughts and feelings that were overwhelming become an opportunity to learn, to grow, to be inspired and to become the SuperHuman you know you are!

Today, be aware of what you're focusing on and how you are CHOOSING to feel. Then you can practice taking control of your Awesomeness!

Let me know your results in the comments!

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